Practical Pants

G’day, mates! (I hope you read that in a pitifully done Australian accent because that’s certainly how it sounded in my head.) I’ve come to you today with the purpose of having a wee discussion, and in order to do so, it’s going to require that we all put on our practical pants. Can we agree to do that? Fabulous! I’ll give you a minute to locate yours and change.

On the heels of our discussion in the last blog post about New Year’s resolutions, I’ve been thinking a lot about the process of improvement, especially with regard to our lives. So many people have such incredible intentions when it comes to resolutions and such, but then life gets in the way, plans peter out, and by March we’re all right back to doing whatever it was we were doing in November when we decided THINGS ARE GOING TO CHANGE! I’m always curious to see what people decide to change about themselves and their lifestyles, and more often than not, the resolution or goal or “lifestyle change” (I’m pretty sure every time someone uses that worn-out phrase a vegan is force-fed a hamburger) is in such contrast to how that person lives now it’s no wonder people go back to their same old ways.

In order to make this topic less massive and in an effort to focus it toward the area of our lives that’s most important, I want to talk with you today specifically about goal-setting in your spiritual life. Maybe you’ve not been where I have, but I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve set goals to read my Bible more, to wake up and pray before I start my day, to journal all my prayers and catalogue each way I see God throughout my day only to have these things either 1) not happen AT ALL or 2) not stick around must past February. In examining why I found myself struggling so much to maintain these useful–albeit lofty–new “habits” I discovered that I cared much more about the action itself than I did about the result I was getting from it. In other words, my focus was on the time on my clock (that I woke up at 5:30am or that I spent at least 15 minutes praying); it wasn’t on whom I was supposed to be doing all this for: God. And in addition to that, I wasn’t even taking into consideration my personality (um, yeah, 5:30am is NOT gonna happen for this gal). So my chance of success was already greatly endangered before I ever got my resolution or goal off the ground. I’m guessing something similar has either happened to you before or is maybe even happening to you as we speak. Without judgment, let me ask you this: being fully honest with yourself, how is that resolution working out for you? Has it lost some of its newness already? Can you feel it shifting from an exciting, bold “lifestyle change” to a tedious, burdensome “one more thing to do”?

So with regard to spiritual goal-setting, maybe we can take a second and discuss just a couple of things really quickly. I pray that as we do, it will be relevant to the good you’re doing in your life, the changes you’re making to honor God, and that it will help keep those changes on track long after all your buddies stop going to the gym. First, I think it’s important that we discuss what types of goals it’s necessary to set if you want long-term success. Now I know we all had roughly 2.5 “guest speakers” during our school years who attempted to bestow upon our less-than-interested teenage selves this information, but you and I both know we were writing notes and folding them up in weird not-quite-origami shapes instead of listening. Hopefully it all makes a little bit more sense (and is actually applicable) this time around. So without further ado, here is what I think goal(s) must be in order to even begin journeying toward success:

Spiritual goals must be

*reasonable/realistic for YOUR personality and schedule

*measurable–do you have a way to determine if you are or are not succeeding at your goal?

*rational and/or practical (look, you get to wear your practical pants again!)

Now, to make this as clear as a I can and hopefully as concise as I can, let’s apply these requirements to spiritual goals in three main areas: Bible reading, praying, and finances/tithing.

Bible reading

Let’s pretend that you’ve decided that 2020 is going to be the year that you read the ENTIRE BIBLE front to back. It’s a good goal, right? It’s measurable. Check. Is it practical? We’ll, let’s see. Do you have reading plan? No? Okay then. Do you know what time of the day you’ll read? No? Okay. Do you own a Bible? Yes? Oh okay, great. That’s a good start. So, tell me about your current Bible reading. How often to do you read the Bible? Zero, you say? Let me make sure I understand. You currently do zero Bible reading and without any type of reading plan or pre-planned method of attack, you’re going to take out the entire Bible when you’ve somehow not managed to even read a single chapter up to this point? Hmmmmm. I mean, I am well aware of the abounding sarcasm here, but how well do you expect this to go? Friends, you and I both know this just ain’t gonna happen. How do I know? Because I’ve tried it!

My intentions were good. At the time I wasn’t a Bible reader and I wanted to fix that. I read A LOT, but I had never read the Bible cover-to-cover and I thought that since I had recently entered my 30’s, the time had arrived. I was going to get up early, I was going to magically shake off the sleepiness, and I was going to make it through with no problem. Well, I did this about five or six times before I realized that I had a tendency to sleep-read and 5:30 was really dang early. And do you know what I did when my goal failed? I beat myself up over it. I felt like my Bible reading HAD to be done in the morning; I felt like God wouldn’t speak to me clearly if I wasn’t reading my Bible the very first thing every day. But, y’all, I did that to myself. Sure, it’s wise to start your day with the Word, to have it fresh in your mind so that as your day presents itself, with all its struggles and surprises, you’ve got Truth fresh in your mind. What I’m here to tell you today, though, friend, is that GOD JUST WANTS YOU. He’s not upset if it’s on your lunch break. He’s not angry because your Bible reading happened in the car waiting in the pick-up line. He just wants your heart tuned to His frequency during your day. He wants to bless you with the peace and encouragement that you absolutely cannot get anywhere but in His Word. If you’re in a season of life where you can’t do early morning Bible reading, cut yourself some slack. Find the time that works for you (FYI—I still don’t do mine first thing) and commit to being more interested in the Bible you’re reading than the time of day that you’re reading it.

And one last thing about Bible reading goals before I move on. Try not to get caught up in the specifics: what book to read, how long to read, etc. I started out by getting a devotional so that it could help me work my way through the Bible. Then, after I did a devotional or two, I began feeling more comfortable forging my own way through various chapters. You can’t go wrong with Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John, either. Again, God isn’t sitting on His throne, stop-watch in hand. Ask Him for His help in finding the time, try out various times of the day and various reading plans, and keep at it. You’ll get there.

Praying

A few years ago I decided that I was going to wake up every morning at like 5:15 or 5:30 or some other dumb time and I was going to pray before I started my day. Seemed like that is what preachers always talked about doing and I was pretty sure that’s what both Joyce Meyer AND Beth Moore did, so obviously by not doing this I was already terrible at this Christian walk thing. So, I set my alarm and when it went off each morning, I would flip on my lamp, lean back in bed against my pillows, and pray. Y’all. I did this for about two weeks and NOT ONE TIME did I stay awake. Not once! I had a very young child who barely slept and it was a time in my life when I got very little rest and/or sleep. Was this goal a rational, reasonable, realistic goal for me? Well of course it wasn’t. It was another r-word: ridiculous. Yet another spiritual goal I failed because I was so busy focusing on these crazy rules I’d put on my walk with God. Self-regulating instead of God-regulating my prayer life was never going to lead me to success.

If you’re here too–or if you’ve been here before and since just given up on the whole thing altogether–there’s a really simple way to do this. Talk to God about it. Pray more. Let that be your motto. Work prayer into your day at a variety of times. Practice taking your issues to God when they crop up throughout your day instead of ignoring Him until 5:30 each morning when you utter two words to Him and then promptly fall back asleep. God just wants to be with you, to be invited in. With His help, start slowly and reasonably. Decide that instead of listening to a podcast or satellite radio on your way to work each day, you’re going to pray. Struggling to stay focused? Switch your regular radio out for praise music and then pause for two minutes on your way out of the car and into work to thank God for something in your life. Starting small isn’t insignificant. And I’m telling you because I know from experience, friends, God will bless even the smallest efforts when the desire for Him is genuine and present.

Tithing

Watch out, everybody, Lindsey’s talking about money!!! Run for your lives!!! Calm down, you nutballs. We’ll save the “to tithe or not to tithe” post for another day. Today, let’s just assume some of you have set the spiritual goal of giving back to either your church or other worthy charities/causes that further the gospel. If you have never ever tithed, or if you’ve resolved to do so only to take that money and put it toward other things after the “new” wore off, let’s apply that same logic, reason, and practicality to this goal as we have the previous two. So yes, the Bible states that a tithe is to be 10%. However, given what I know about God, about His love and His compassionate understanding and His slowness to anger, I’m going to go out on a limb here (insert sarcasm emoji here) and say that if you go from giving nothing to giving something smaller than 10%, you will not be struck down dead where you stand. If 10% seems astronomical to you, if the whole concept of tithing is hard to get your head around but you feel God prompting you to start somewhere, then do exactly that. Start somewhere…somewhere small. Okay, so maybe 10% gives you hives. Does 5%? Still feel like you’re wearing a sweater your great-aunt Nadine knitted you? Then what about 2%? Surely by now you’re starting to see my point with regard to ANY spiritual goal you set for yourself: it’s not about the rules, it’s about the relationship you’re building in the process. Talk to God about your finances. Ask Him to show you where that money can come from. Ask Him to bless your giving. Ask Him to show you that your tithe counts toward good. I can tell you from SERIOUS personal experience many, many times over, God WILL show up. He will bless your efforts, and He will take pride in helping you move from a 1.567% tithe to a 10% to a who-knows-what percent.

**Okay, money talk is over. You can stop covering your eyes.**

While I know many of you probably don’t need this post because you’re knocking it out of the park in these areas, maybe it’ll be something you can apply to other ones that aren’t going quite so well. I find myself sometimes getting certain aspects of my walk with Christ on track and then losing ground in others. Sometimes I can need to be reminded that these concepts–be realistic, measure your progress but don’t harp on it, start small–can be applied to a variety of goals, skills or areas in which I’m attempting to strengthen my faith. Whatever you are doing well or blowing up completely, friends, God loves you with an unstoppable love. You are NOT disappointing Him, even when you disappoint yourself. When we stumble in our efforts to do better, He’s not there waiting to chastise us and remind us of our failures. He wants to offer His hand, His help up, and His love. Let’s be mindful of the goals we set; let’s cut ourselves some slack; let’s get right back on track when we get off. And most importantly, let’s remember why we’re doing this in the first place: Jesus. Not once has He ever left someone to better themselves on their own. Let Him help. Oh, and one last thing, let’s try wearing our practical pants a little more often. 🙂

Dear Lord, thank You so very much for Jesus, that He’s available to help me as I try my best to mature my walk with You and strengthen our relationship. I ask for Your help, God, because I know that I can’t readjust my life without Your help. I want to do better in many areas, and I offer those up to You today. Help me to stay consistent in my Bible reading, Lord, but help me also to be more interested in what I’m learning about You than I am about how much or how long I read. Father, I ask too that You would help me come to You more often in prayer. I want to talk to You throughout the day, Lord, but I also want that important time alone with You as well. Help me to take an honest look at my life and my schedule so that I can better use it on what’s most important: You. And lastly, Lord, be with me and my finances. Help me to see my money as Yours. Help me to give it cheerfully, knowing You will bless me, Lord. Right now tithing seems like giving away money, but I know that it’s really just handing back to You what’s rightfully Yours. Be with me, Father, as I learn this tough lesson. Help me to see the fruits of my labor. I love You, Lord, and I know that You love me, too. Draw me closer to You. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

Seek God

Good afternoon, friends, and Happy New Year! I pray that this post finds you all still stuffed from all you ate at Christmas and looking optimistically into the things God will bring your way in 2020.

This time last year I wrote a post that discussed the importance of focusing on the spiritual aspects of our lives as we make resolutions and attempt changing our lifestyles, and today, I want to reiterate that somewhat. I think going into this next year with new goals and plans is a FABULOUS way to do life. I mean, if you can’t dream about your future you’ve got big problems! But I think it’s foolish to walk forward without giving thought to how things went for us last year, how we did with those areas most important to our lives as children of God, and how we plan to do better this coming year in those same important areas.

Now, before I begin getting into the scriptural meat of all of this, I want to make sure my tone/intention is clear. While it might sound a little bit like it, I’m not opposed to those resolutions or goals or plans that include the fun, trendy ideas like veganism, Keto dieting, and yoga with goats (this last one is pretty much how I envision Heaven). But, if you are doing these things without inviting God to be a part of it, that’s where I see a problem. No one cares if you’re vegan if your soul shrivels.  You know what I’m saying? You can Keto diet until you’re so tiny strong winds are a fierce threat to your welfare, but what good is that skinnier thigh if your heart is hard and Jesus is a distant acquaintance? (Somebody better say AMEN right here)

Here today, at the start of this blank slate, this fresh year where we have so many new blessings and opportunities heading our way, I want us to meet together and remind ourselves where our focus should truly be. I want to ask you a couple of questions, friends, and please know I do so gently and without judgment. Please take a minute and answer these for yourself as honestly as possible.

With regard to 2019:

  1. How much time on a daily, or even weekly, basis did you spend in personal Bible reading? (Sermons at church don’t count–those aren’t personal reading times.)
  2. How often did you turn immediately to scripture when you felt upset, troubled, or stressed?
  3. How often did you air your worries/concerns/upsets/grievances on social media but not in prayer Jesus?
  4. How often did you talk to others about Jesus? How many people did you witness to in 2019?
  5. When you do talk about Jesus to someone, how do you feel internally? Is it easy and comfortable, or do rivers form in your armpits?
  6. Which scriptures did you commit to memory this past year?
  7. What biblical principles can you say you definitely have worked on during the trials and tribulations of this past year?
  8. On a scale of 1-10, with ten being “BFFs,” where do you and Jesus rank?
  9. What character traits of God’s have you seen most throughout the challenges you faced this past year?
  10. And finally, if those closest to you were asked about your spiritual growth, would they be able to provide evidence of an increase?

Y’all, this list of questions, when I answer them with complete honesty, humbles me tremendously. It’s not that any of us are bad at being representatives of God, but spiritual maturity is such a “two steps forward and three steps back” process that we’d be remiss to move forward into another year worrying about things like weight loss and budgets when our spiritual selves are what they are. {Side note: if you get your spiritual self strengthened and nourished, those others areas of your life that are out of control (finances, diet/health, emotions, marriage, etc.) are WAY more likely to work themselves out with the help of the Holy Spirit. A distant heart mutes the Holy Spirit, so we’ve gotta get that part sorted out first.}

So now maybe you’re tracking with me, you understand the point I’m making about what areas of our lives our goals and resolutions should address foremostly (that is not a word, but I feel like that’s a grave error on the part of humankind so that joker is staying), but although you get what I’m saying, you’re just not sure how to improve spiritually. You’ve resolved to read your Bible more in the past and it’s never happened. You’ve resolved to pray more, but that’s never materialized either. You’ve made lists and bought apps and set earlier alarms and borrowed everybody else’s plans, and you’re still the same ole you; you still don’t read your Bible much, you harbor guilt over your prayer life, and sleeping in is ALWAYS preferable. Well good news, friend–I have a solution for you! And, it’s an easy one that involves only two words: SEEK GOD.

Yep, that’s it. Seek God. In thinking about New Year’s and its resolutions and everyone’s need to set goals and decide what in their lives should be changed or altered or eliminated or added, I suddenly wondered, How many times are these plans being made because we first sought God and asked HIM what we should alter or change or eliminate? Being totally honest, I bet it’s not very many. That’s my encouragement for this year: before you make decisions about your life, before you set goals or rearrange your budget or alter your diet, seek God. Maybe those areas are exactly the ones that need the most work, but maybe God sees things you don’t and feels your time, efforts, money, and mental energies would be better spent in other areas with greater impact for His kingdom. Yes, being healthy is definitely of utmost importance. There’s no arguing that, especially in today’s culture. But what if you invited God into those dietary decisions you’re making? What you if asked Him to show you what changes you needed to make and asked Him for His help in becoming a healthier you? I’m guessing that since He made you, since He is fully aware of every molecule in your body, He’s a pretty good resource for guidance in that area.

One verse that I’ve spent a great deal of time with this year is Proverbs 3:5-7. I used it recently in a post, but it definitely applies here as well. It says, “Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes…” HE will direct your path. HE will make straight your path so you’re not tricked or deceived or led astray. HE will make your path clear and plain to see, not convoluted and foggy. We cannot do those things, friends. We don’t know what God knows (His ways are higher than our ways). We cannot see what He can. Isn’t it best to let Him be in charge?

Seek God. “Seek FIRST His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given unto you” (Matthew 6:33, emphasis mine). Y’all, there is no time of the year, no aspect of our lives when we shouldn’t wait to move until we hear directly from God. There’s no aspect, no matter how minute, that we shouldn’t lay bare before Him and ask Him to guide and bless. Can you imagine what your 2020 would look like if you truly chose to seek God before anything else, including Him in all areas? His blessings are great; His favor immeasurable. He is always faithful; He cannot go back on His Word; His ways are always good. In Jeremiah 29, God tells us exactly what He has up His sleeve if we’ll only partner with Him in the coming year, letting go of our own plans and ways: “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’–this is the Lord’s declaration–‘plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give a future and a hope. You will call to Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.'” (verses 11-13, HCSB) Instead of seeking those things that we’ve not consulted God about, instead of seeking those earthly goals or devising our own “wise” plans, how about we all decide that this year, in 2020, we’re simply going to seek God and let Him direct our steps (Prov. 16:9). Are you with me, friends?

Dear Father, thank You for letting me see another day and another year. Thank You from the bottom of my heart for the many, many blessings in 2019. I ask, Lord, that You pour out Your love, favor, and grace over my 2020. May You bless my family, my friends, and all of Your children, God. As I begin 2020, I desire to seek You, Father, above all things. Help me to push aside the things of this world that crowd my mind for attention. Help me to seek Your input, Your guidance, Your voice, and Your will above all other things. Lord, I don’t want to participate in or waste energy on a single goal or plan or resolution that’s not been okayed first by You. I ask that You please make clear to me those areas in my life that YOU choose to have me work on. Grant me clarity and discernment, Father, so that I am able to line my heart and my life right up with Yours. I thank You that, because of You, my future is hopeful and full of promise and blessing. I look forward to a deeper, more substantial relationship with You in this next year. I pray that when 2021 arrives, my spiritual progress, though it is slow, is recognizable to anyone and everyone who knows me. It’s in Jesus’s mighty and holy name I move and pray. Amen.

Worship and Wait

Y’all know that feeling when life is going along just fine, everybody in your household is doing well, then suddenly one thing happens, creating a snowball effect, and before you know it it feels like someone’s pulled the rug out from under you? Well, welcome to the Thomas household lately. As with most seasons like this, we’re not facing anything life-threatening or catastrophic, but lately it just seems like it’s been one thing after another. Our routine has been disrupted (this Queen Of All Type A’s right here is NOT handling that so well) and our usual daily flow–and the peace it brings–has been disrupted right along with it. For me, when this happens, I feel like my insides begin to match my outsides: my thoughts are all over the place, my blood pressure is high, my ability to settle down internally has flown the coop. Often during times like this, I find myself crying out to God over and over, begging Him for deliverance from whatever issue I feel is most contributory. I ask Him repeatedly, God, what do You want me to do?! How can I fix this (or stop this or help my child)? And while I believe each difficult season of life bring its own lessons, in this current one, I’ve heard God whisper (VERY quietly), “Worship and wait.”

Friends, what a concept (and a terribly difficult one!) this is. When our lives seem crazy and hectic and it feels like everything is out of our control, what does God want us to do? Wait?! I’m sorry, but the mother in me, the Type A personality in me, the “fixer” in me is not thrilled with this response. Pardon me, Lord, all due respect, but You cannot be serious. I mean, internally it feels like I’m running around with my head on fire, and Your almighty response is to tell me to settle myself down and not do anything? Um, clearly there’s been a misunderstanding, so I’m going to pray that “Lord, please tell me what to do to fix this!!!!” prayer again…you know, see what I get this time.

Me: So once more, Lord, what do I do here? How do I make this stop?! I need answers right this very instant! (foot stomp)

God: Worship and wait. Focus on Me and let Me handle your life. I’ll give you what you need, I’ll share My wisdom and My methods for solving your problems–those small actions you can take on your end–as I see fit, but in the meantime, wait on Me. It’s where the greatest blessings are found.

You ’90’s children remember Alanis Morrisette and her album called Jagged Little Pill? Yeah well, that’s what this instruction was to my all-in-a-tizzy self, a VERY jagged little pill to swallow. However, I know that the Bible tells us that our obedience shows our faith, and it’s when we first step out in faith, BEFORE anything in our situation changes, that starts the ball rolling for God to work in our lives. So, I’ve been giving this a shot. Disclaimer: I’m failing (sometimes miserably) at it, but even though I’m taking one step forward and three (four?) steps back, I’m learning. Despite what Satan is telling me, I know that God isn’t expecting perfected faith from me; He is pleased that my goal is obedience to Him. He is blessed by my decision to believe His Word and to choose to shut down those negative thoughts even when it takes all the mental and emotional strength I’ve got some days. We don’t have to get it all just right, friends. We just have to decide in our hearts that Jesus gets more weight than our emotions, and we’ve just got to push through and work those faith muscles, if you will, until we find ourselves facing these rug-out-from-under-us seasons with less mental and emotional chaos.

As with anything, our strength to handle these trials in life comes from God, and more often than not, He provides clarity and peace, joy and contentment through His Word. It always astounds me how He speaks to me so intentionally through my daily devotion or even through the devotional we read with our daughter at night. If you seek God, friend, and you turn to His Word for your help, God will never not show up. Never. It’s impossible for Him to abandon us. So when the devil starts telling you that things will never change, that your situation won’t ever improve, that all of the good of your life is in the past, use the Truth that you find right there in the printed pages of the Bible to remind him (and yourself) that God is not absent. He is not late. He is not unfaithful. He is present; He is good; He is working on your/your family’s/your child’s behalf. Things are getting better and better, not worse and worse, and while you wait for those trials to pass, set your heart on worship mode. Choose to praise God, to celebrate Him, to thank Him for all He’s doing in your life BEFORE you ever even see it.

I have gathered together a few verses that I’ve been returning to lately to help remind myself that when it’s bleak, it won’t stay that way. I find great comfort in these promises from my loving, provisional God, and I pray that you do, too. I invite you to read through these carefully, letting God settle them into your spirit. If, right now, you aren’t facing times of challenge and trial, I encourage you to share these with someone who is, maybe even save them so that when you come up against something in the future that attempts to steal your peace, you have TRUTH with which you can fight back against the darkness. And as always, I hope that you’ll pray the closing prayer with me (out loud if you can) because we know that God works through our prayers. We also know that intercessory prayers are incredibly powerful, so offer that prayer and the ones that God lays on your heart for others you know or hear of who need some comfort and peace during a tough time. May the hand of God be so very obvious in the lives of every single one of us!

(PS. The Word of God is especially powerful and active when spoken out loud. It might feel kinda weird, but don’t be afraid to speak these verses out loud over yourself or your family!)

Micah 7:7–But as for me, I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me.

Psalm 46:10–Be still and know that I am God

Exodus 14:14–The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.

Zephaniah 3:17–The Lord your God is with you….He will quiet you with His love

Isaiah 23: 2-3–Surely God is my salvation. I will trust and not be afraid.

Isaiah 23:4–Give praise to the Lord, proclaim His name

Philippians 4:4-5–Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! The Lord is near

Philippians 4:6-7–Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, WITH THANKSGIVING, present your requests to God

Isaiah 40:31–But they who wait for the Lord will renew their strength…

Psalm 27:13-14–Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!

Lamentations 3:25–The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him

Proverbs 3:5-6–Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding

Psalm 130:5-6–I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His Word I hope; my soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen for the morning…

Psalm 33:20-22–Our soul waits for the Lord; He is our help and our shield. For our heart is glad in Him, because we trust His holy name

Dear Lord, thank You so much for Your Word, for its guidance and encouragement. Thank You, Father, that whether life is a fierce struggle or a wonderful celebration, or even just a contented daily grind, I am never alone because You walk through it all right beside me. During this tough time, Lord, I ask that You please make Your hand visible. Help me to see evidence that You are moving in my situation. And during those times when Your work isn’t clear, help me to trust You anyway. Lord, bring me closer to you through these challenges. Help me to learn what You’d have me learn while I go through this, and please, Father, as Your Word promises, use this season of life to bring good to me and my family. I choose to believe what Your Word says, not the nasty joy-stealing lies that Satan whispers in my ear. I rebuke him in the name of Jesus, and I praise You, God, even though I can’t quite see what You’re doing just yet. I trust You, Lord, and while I wait on Your deliverance, I will put my energy into praising You for Your constant goodness. Thank You, Father God, that I don’t have to know the “how” to believe that You are making a way for me. I love You, and I am so incredibly grateful to be Your child. Might that title, Child of God, be all I need to feel joyful through the storm. In Jesus’s name I pray and in Jesus’s name I believe and receive Your blessings. Amen.

From “Aw” to “Ugh”

A few weeks ago, a video went viral after a woman posted herself going out of her way to do a good deed. In this video, the “star,” who was an Uber driver, went out and bought her female client some clothes, after learning of her passenger’s need for clothes before dropping her off that morning at her fast-food job. The driver even delivered them to her right there in the drive-through, and she did all of this while running her phone’s camera. My initial reaction to this video was, “Aw, that’s so sweet,” but my feelings whip-lashed before I knew what was happening. My thoughts went from “Aw!” to “Ugh!” in a matter of seconds. And here’s why: I started thinking about the logistics of this scenario, about exactly what transpired in order for this woman to have her good deed recorded.

If we’re going to be the kind of people who sit and watch life happen on tiny screens in front of our faces, the least we can do is actually *think* about what we’re watching, and this video had me thinking about how desperate we can often be for acknowledgement and/or attention. Take this “videographer” if you will. Here is a lady who had a very, very kind and generous idea to provide her client with something the client was unable to provide for herself. Nothing wrong with helping a person in need! That’s taking a page out of Jesus’s own book for crying out loud. However, things took a turn the second she began setting up her camera so that she could record and then post her goodness. Granted, I’m guessing here because I don’t know her, but if you take video of yourself doing something good and kind and then post said video, the person you’re attempting to highlight and for whom you’re looking to gain notoriety is Y-O-U.

This lady did many nice things, some on-camera, some off. She listened to her passenger and engaged with her passenger enough to identify a need. She then went one step further by providing for that need, exactly as Jesus expects us to do. But. The moment that she began setting up that camera just right in her car so that she could capture her generosity on camera, things went south. And that’s what I was thinking about, the staging, the orchestrating, when I shifted so rapidly from aw to ugh.

The good thing to come out of this, though, was some time spent considering how often I want recognition for the good things I do for others (and it’s way more often than I’d like to admit). God knew that as humans we’d be largely tempted to take moments like these and soil them. At our core, we tend to be selfish and vain, but God’s not shocked by that, nor is He upset with us. He made us; He knows exactly what we’re like and what worldly challenges can, and do, trip us up. He also wants to make sure we understand the error of our ways and our thinking, and in an effort to do that, He’s tucked some lessons and guidance into His Word. (Psssst! There’s not a single issue you have faced, are facing, or ever will face that’s not addressed in the Bible. So there you go.)

I’d like for us to look at a few key verses on this topic, and I’d like start with Luke 14:7-11. In these verses Jesus is directly speaking and warning us against thinking too highly of ourselves. In verse 11 He cautions, “For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Excellent advice for many, many a situation.

Then, Proverbs 25:27 says this: “It is not good to eat too much honey, nor is it glorious to seek one’s own glory.” It is not glorious to seek one’s own glory. Let that sink in for a minute.

God doesn’t stop there, though. He offers us more wisdom on this topic of self-glorification later in Proverbs when He encourages us to “Let someone else praise you, not your own mouth” (27:2).

But the verses that really caught me, the ones that seemed to speak directly to the heart of my human need to brag on myself or seek recognition any time I do something that I think might exalt me in the eyes of others is from Matthew 6: 1-4. Read this carefully, friends. It’s packed full.

“1 Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in Heaven.

2 So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets…to be honored by others…3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”

Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. Wow! In other words, your good deed should be so private between you and God alone that even your non-giving hand, the one not handing out provisions to the needy, has no idea what’s happening. Videoing our “righteousness” and posting it online for others to like, comment on, and share? Yeah, not so much.

In one of her publications, Joyce Meyer tells a story about this exact concept that is so practical and relevant it’s always stayed with me. (I’m going to do a pitiful paraphrasing of her story, but hopefully you can track with me enough to get the gist of it regardless.) In her story, Joyce (I call her by her first name because we’re BFF’s) goes into a salon to get her nails done, and on that particular day, she’s wearing a broach on her blouse (maybe it was coat? I don’t know.). A fellow nail-salon patron sitting next to her comments on this beautiful piece of jewelry, and Joyce says she feels the Lord urging her to take off the pin and give it to this lady. She starts to obey, but about the time she plans to hand it over to the woman, both of the nail technicians leave the room. Wanting to make sure they see her act of generosity, Joyce waits until they are both back in the room before giving this woman her broach. Of course, as expected and desired, everyone oohhs and aahhs over Joyce’s kindness. She feels good about herself, but for only half a second because as soon as exits the nail salon, she hears God say, “I hope you enjoyed that because that’s all the reward you’re going to get.” Think that wasn’t God speaking to her? Take a quick second to re-read Matthew 6:1 above. I’ll wait.

You see, our job as Christians is to glorify God and direct others to Him. That’s it…full stop. We have no other purpose that tops pointing unbelievers to Jesus Christ, and as soon as we turn something loving and kind and gracious and compassionate into something that’s all about us, we’ve damaged that. If we exalt ourselves, we get the glory that should’ve been used to shine a light directly on Jesus. We can’t glorify ourselves AND God simultaneously; it’s a one-or-the-other kinda deal. As followers of Christ, we are to use our lives to become more like Him, to behave more and more like He did, and Jesus never once glorified Himself. Not once. And look at what all He did.

Before I close, I want to share with you a quote from Dr. Tony Evans that I ran across while preparing for this post. I felt like it was both a simple and a very profound way of looking at our desire for self-glorification. I pray it’s one that sticks with you, too. I love you all, and I think you’re all REALLY great.

“If you want to lead the orchestra, you have to be willing to turn your back on the crowd.” -Dr. Tony Evans

Dear Lord, thank You so very much for continuously drawing to my attention the areas in my life that can use a little work. Father, I understand and recognize fully that my purpose here on this planet is to bring others to You and to glorify You in all I do, think, and say. I need help with that, though, Lord, because sometimes I want recognition and accolades for my good deeds. Please help me, God, to spend much more time focused on the honor and attention given to You than to myself. Help me to worry only about glorifying You so that You can be responsible for glorifying me. I know that life will be much better and my blessings much larger that way. Let others see You through me, Lord. I love You, Father, and I am so grateful for Your constant love. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.

 

One Foot In Front Of The Other

I have been working very hard getting a blog post prepared. I’ve been thinking about my wording, which scriptures to include, how to get started, etc. This, however, is not that blog post. For whatever reason, I’ve felt a burden on my heart to say a few things that aren’t planned, that haven’t been prepped, but that I feel God truly wants me to share. Basically, God wants me to tell you this: YOU ARE DOING JUST FINE! We are so often so hard on ourselves, assuming everyone is doing life and all its parts perfectly while we’re over here drowning, wearing floaties in a tsunami and trying to survive it. You know what though? You’re doing a good job.

You are a good person.

You are a good parent.

You are a good spouse.

You are a good friend.

You are a good coworker.

You are a good neighbor.

You are a good son or daughter, niece or nephew, brother or sister.

You are good.

I know that we’re not all right in the midst of the greatest seasons of our lives. I know that some of us are struggling to get up each morning, to show up for work, to mentally tune in to what’s happening in front of our faces. But you know what, it’s a season. It’s ONLY a season. And the God of the ENTIRE UNIVERSE who holds galaxy upon galaxy in the palm of His hand is lovingly aware of you. He is working for you. He is moving and shaping in order to work ALL THINGS you are facing into good for you!

Hear me, please! He isn’t mad at you. He isn’t teaching you a lesson. He’s not punishing you because of some sin–whether real or imagined. He’s not letting you suffer. He’s not causing your pain.

As you face whatever’s on your plate, as you continue to put one foot in front of the other, Friends, God is proud of you. He sees your heart, He notes your progress, and He loves you with a love you cannot even possibly comprehend. So hang in there. Good days are coming. Answered prayers are coming. And in the meantime, God promises to be right there with you, to give you His strength, His courage, His power to get through the day.

And when you think you just can’t get through whatever you’re facing, when you feel beaten down or overwhelmed or just defeated by life, remind yourself that you don’t have to currently possess what it takes to make it through the trial. The Bible tells us that God provides us DAILY with the strength and grace we’ll need to get to the next day. So today, Friday, you’re absolutely right–you do not have what it takes to even make it through the weekend. You do, however, have exactly what you need to make it through Friday. And then, when you wake up on Saturday and seek the Lord, He’ll show right up and give you exactly what you need to make it through Saturday, too.

He loves you, Friend. He delights in you, and He looks forward to blessing you after this storm has passed and your faith has held strong. He looks forward to showing you just how much you grew in Him while your faith was being built through the waiting. You’ve got this, and God’s got you. Praise Him, thank Him, bless His holy and mighty name even when it seems you’ve nothing left, and watch what happens. First one foot, then the other. You’ve got this, and the best is yet to come!

Thrive

If you’re not familiar with the Christian band Casting Crowns, I highly recommend that you rectify this error immediately. Recently, while listening to KLOVE radio, I caught just a couple of the lines from their song “Thrive” and that was all it took to get me thinking deeper about the word thrive. Does this ever happen to you: you hear a word or phrase you’ve either never heard or maybe haven’t heard in long time, and suddenly, that word or phrase is everywhere? You’re hearing it constantly? That’s what happened as I began meditating on the word “thrive” after hearing those powerful lyrics. It stuck with me so much it even had me thinking back on times when I’d seen people put this concept into action.

One such recollection came in the form of an episode of Naked and Afraid. Calm down, kiddies, this is not porn. Naked and Afraid is a survivalist-style show where one man and one woman are dropped off into the worst outdoor environments with zero supplies and zero clothing. Their task is to survive for 21 days on their own and complete some sort of physical challenge to reach their “exit,” which is usually either a beat-up pick-up truck or a helicopter, depending upon where they were located.  Now, normally I refuse to watch “reality TV” of any kind. Truth be told, I’d rather sell every television in this house than watch anything involving a Kardashian, a housewife, or a rose ceremony. But for Naked and Afraid I make an exception. (Just to reiterate, don’t let that term “naked” fool you into thinking this is some racy, sexy show. It’s the exact opposite. Think hundreds of bug bites (per person!!), lots of vomiting, the eating of weird shouldn’t-be-eaten plants and animals–hence the vomiting, and horrifying, wild-animal noises in the dark.)

Okay, now back to my original point. One episode of Naked and Afraid featured a guy who was insanely resourceful. He had a long back-story of the many things in life he’d survived, and he came into this challenge with a determination not just to survive his 21 days in the wilderness, but to THRIVE during those days. I can’t remember all of the details, but I know that he spent a large number of those days alone (his female counterpart got hurt or sick or “tapped out” and left for the comforts of home). I also remember that he made a sign on which he carved the word “thrive,” and he hung this sign over his shelter. And, y’all, let me tell you what an enormous difference there was in his 21 days and the same 21 days of those whose goal was simply survival. It was unreal. I mean, at one point, Thrive-guy killed an alligator WITH THIS BARE HANDS and feasted like a king. Um, yes, I do believe that’s called thriving in the wilderness.

What I’m asking you to consider today is whether you’re going through life like this guy, determined to do what it takes to thrive, or whether you are just trying to survive your life?

Friends, our God is a God of thrival, not survival (guess who just invented a new word!). Our God wants to bless us and do so abundantly. He is so good, y’all, and if you were to ask Him which approach He desires for His children, simply surviving life or thriving at life, I’m pretty sure we all know what His answer would be (pssst, if you’re not sure, the answer is in the Bible).

You know those Casting Crowns lyrics I referenced earlier? I’d like to share those with you, and I’d like to spend a few minutes digging into what scripture says about this idea of thriving. This is the tiniest portion of their song, but it impacted my thoughts in such a powerful way; I’m praying it does the same for you, too.

We know we were made for so much more than ordinary lives/ It’s time for us to more than just survive/ We were made to thrive.

Let that sink in: we were made to thrive. How many of you could take an honest look at your life (your marriage, your job, your season of life, your parenting, your church participation, your relationship with Jesus) and say, without a doubt, that you are thriving? Friends, that’s a tough order. I’d wager a guess that for most of us, while we might be excelling in an area or two, in many others we are simply trying to survive.

It’s important that we fully understand what is meant by the word thrive, so, despite the fact that all my English-teacher friends are sighing and eye-rolling, I’d like to present you with an actual definition:

thrive: 1. to prosper, fortunate, successful; 2. to grow or develop vigorously, to flourish

Whether you’re starting your college years or fully established in your career, whether you’re newlywed or have been married for years, are you flourishing, friends? Can you look at your choices and decisions, at the words you speak and the actions you take and say, without reservation, “I am thriving”? If you’re doing life and relationships without Jesus, without a personal, daily touchbase with Jesus, you are most certainly simply surviving. (Side note: if you go through the motions on Sunday only to move through the rest of your week without spending time with Jesus and in the Word, that is NOT doing life with Jesus. That’s called going to church. Those two aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. Watch out, toes, I’m comin’ for ya!)

But as Jesus instructs, take heart, my lovelies! There is hope. And like another great worship song says, “Hope has a name, His name is Jesus!” And all God’s people said AMEN!!

You know, we all go through seasons of survival, where we literally just have to take it a week or a day (or an hour) at a time. And you know what? That’s okay. But if you spend your every day of every week of every month of every year just slogging through so you can go home, go to bed, get up the next day and do it all over again, let me be the one to tell you, that’s not what Jesus died to give you. If what I just described fits you perfectly, I want you to do me a favor. Get yourself a Sharpie and about five notecards and write John 10:10 on them: I have come that they may have life and have it to the fullest. Put those notecards all around your house and your car and your office at work. Say those words out loud. Declare that promise from Jesus over your life, friend, because simply surviving, simply enduring life as though it’s a miserable affliction, is NOT why the blood of Jesus was spilled. You, through your belief in Jesus, get to experience so very much more.

Please take a minute to read and absorb these promises from your Heavenly Father:

The Lord will open the heavens, the storehouse of His bounty…to bless all the work of your hands (Deut. 28:12).

A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap (Luke 6:38).

And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:19).

Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us (Eph. 3:20).

The key here, friends, is found there in the last verse, the one from Ephesians. Yes, y’all, God can do immeasurably more than ALL we would even ask of Him or imagine He could do. BUT. It’s all from the power of His Holy Spirit at work within us. You’re no dummy, friend–you know that you can’t keep running yourself ragged between home and work and eight different kids’ sporting activities a week and all your many other obligations and expect God to just make things happen for you. Sure, He can. He’s able to do anything He wants, but He’s not a wishing well and He’s certainly no genie. He’s a relationship, and it’s in the relationship with Him that you’ll go from merely surviving your life to thriving at your life. Wouldn’t it be so nice to look back at our lives one day and to feel like we really conquered life? Can you imagine? To be able to look back at the various seasons of our lives and see how God’s supernatural peace and joy was injected into each one? I don’t know about you, but I have zero interest in simply surviving my life here on Earth. When I walk through Heaven’s gates, I want to hear Jesus declare over me, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matt. 25:23), instead of simply saying, “Welp, you made it.” I want to thrive.

Dear Lord, thank You so very much that You have given me a life that includes a relationship with You so that I can thrive and not just survive the day-to-day. Help me, Father, cultivate a life that blossoms, a life that glorifies You and encourages others to want to know You for themselves. Forgive me, Lord, for squandering this time on Earth that You’ve given me by being so caught up in myself and my obligations that I haven’t even attempted to do more than survive. I want that to stop, Lord, and I want it to stop now so that I can THRIVE in all areas. It’s a big order, God, but I know You’re a big God who blesses those who come boldly before Your throne. I know that I don’t have to worry about doing or being anything because when I’m in a relationship with You, I can hand my life over to You. In Your all-powerful hands, Lord, it’s impossible for me not to thrive. I love You, Father, and I am so grateful to be Your child. It’s in Jesus’s powerful name that I pray. Amen.

Opposite Day

Who has two thumbs and actually managed to sit down and type a blog post? THIS GAL! I have had every intention of writing this for literal weeks now, but boy, does life interrupt my plans sometimes. I felt 110% confident I was going to get this written yesterday, but then I attempted to put some playroom furniture together and promptly lost my entire religion. Fear not–my attitude is better today and I no longer feel as though I might self-combust. Progress!!

Do y’all remember in school when kids would say and do things that were in complete contradiction with truth, only to declare “it’s opposite day!” and we’d all just act like that was real thing? For example, someone would say “I hate recess!” and after receiving dirty looks from his peers, he’d declare “It’s opposite day!” and we’d all laugh and laugh. Well as it turns out, opposite day kinda does exist after all. You see, God Himself operates on a very “opposite-day” system. Here, let me explain.

A few weeks ago, I was perusing Twitter and all its fussy discord (why do I do this to myself?!), and I ran across a post from a semi well-known evangelical figure’s feed. Her post really elevated my blood pressure; let me share it with you:

Today’s spiritual self-care looked like skipping church to drink an overpriced pour at a hip, L.A. cafe and stare existentially at the rain outside while attempting to finish a big project I’m working on (that I can’t wait to tell you about!)

Um, I’m sorry, what? Uh, come again? You’re telling me that you felt spiritually exhausted and overwhelmed, so much so that your soul was FED by being away from the house of Jesus? That your soul was healed to some degree by expensive coffee and working? I’m sorry but, like all the cool kids say, I just cannot with this. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Silly me, here I thought my Bible said things like 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matt. 11:28-30)

This tweet was just one in a long line I’ve noticed lately that push, push, push this agenda of “self-care,” of making sure I/ME is well taken care of. While making sure you’re not neglecting yourself is a valuable use of your time, it’s certainly not what our Bible tells us should be our focus. I began thinking about how socially we’re encouraged to think “Me! Me! Me!” and “First! First! First!” while never considering what God says about where we should place our focus.

So, I took a deeper look at God’s economy and compared it with what we, as a society, believe is important, and –spoiler alert!–things don’t line up. I would love to input a chart here so that this next part could be graphically displayed, but because my computer screen and your phone screen aren’t the same size, that just doesn’t work out. Instead, I’ll list these, one on top of the other and just apologize in advance for the lack of neatness in this presentation of information.

In the following groupings, the mentalities/concepts that we as human beings value are listed first, with the Biblically-supported, God-ordained mentalities/concepts listed immediately after. Left side: what we value and promote. Right side: what God values and promotes.

(Us) Strength/ (God) Weakness in our humanity (Is. 40:31, 2 Cor. 12: 9-10)

(Us) Being first/ (God) Being last (Matt. 20:16)

PrideHumility (1 Peter 5:5)

Being servedServing others (Mark 10:43-45)

Being rich/ Being poor in the things of this world (2 Cor. 8:9, Rev. 3:17)

Focus on the outer (appearance)/ Focus on the inner character (1 Sam. 16:7)

Busyness/ Stillness (Psalm 46:10, Exodus 14:14)

Self/ Others (Luke 9:23)

Give up…quit….move on/ Persist (Gal. 6:9, Col. 1:11-12)

Indifference/ Compassion (Col. 3:12)

Instant gratification/ Slow, deep, sincere progress (1 Sam. 13:8-14, Rom. 12:12)

Y’all, God declared “Opposite day!” on us a long, long time ago, and for some reason, we just move right on pretending like self-care and personal-progress and monetary success and “not my problem” attitudes are desirable. But today I want you to ask yourself what I’ve been asking myself lately as well: what about God’s economy? Am I living my life in a way that promotes God or promotes me? Am I intentionally finding ways to serve others, to put myself second, to do what I don’t want to do so that I can show God’s love to someone else, or am I buying what the Twitter-verse voices are saying and focusing on serving me, myself, and I?

There are so many, many things to say about each of these pairings. Some of these concepts I’ve discussed in previous posts; some I feel led to save so that I might focus more in depth on them in future posts. Overall, for our purposes today, I feel it best to remove myself and my words, allowing God to simply press upon you the one (or ones, plural, if you’re like me!) you can spend some time talking to Him about later. Therefore, instead of focusing on these individually, let’s consider them as a group. Let’s focus on what they, as a whole, show us about behaving more like Jesus.

I’ve said this before, but it bears repeating: I assume if you’re reading a scripture-based blog, you’re likely interested in becoming as much like Jesus as possible. If that’s the case and you are, the God-breathed fundamentals from the Bible that are listed above, along with a few additional verses can help us learn more about the character of Jesus so as to switch off the self-serving sermons. There is no one who exemplifies “Not me but You, God” more than Jesus.

Let’s explore these teachings as they appear in order of the books of the New Testament, starting with Mark.

**Mark 10: 43-45 But among you, it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever want to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give His life as a ransom for many.

**Luke 9: 46-48 For he who is least and lowliest among you all, he is [the one who is truly] great.

**Luke 22:27 For who is greater, the one at the table or the one serving?…But I am among you as the one who serves.

**1 Corinthians 1: 27-28 God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And He chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful. God chose things despised by the world, things counted as nothing at all, and used them to bring to nothing what the world considers important.

**Philippians 2: 5-8 (MSG version) Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion.

Let’s recap, shall we? According to these scriptures, which are obviously just a mere sampling of those that show our subservient, humble, selfless Jesus, God is most certainly in the “opposite day” business. God’s economy doesn’t operate like our self-centered one. We can’t gain one bit of joy or peace by catering to our own fleshly desires and excuses. The value of our own personal convenience seems to be completely missing from scripture. Friends, quite frankly, as Jesus showed us again and again and again, our time on this Earth just truly is not about us.

God is our portion. Jesus is our peace. Prayer is our true self-care, and a relationship with the God of the universe is our reward. Don’t buy into this internet mumbo-jumbo (and yes, that’s the technical term). Sure, you can get your toenails painted instead of cleaning your house; you can drink your wine with your friends instead of attending that “triggering” family gathering; you can even spend your down time reading self-help books in an overpriced coffee shop. And you know what, that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, if you’re looking for long-term renewal of your spirit or peace that surpasses the logical, you won’t find it there.

Friends, we were meant to be like Jesus. Not once have I run across a scripture where it says that when Jesus was tired and overwhelmed with the multitudes CONSTANTLY needing something from Him, He shut it all down so that He could do a little self-care. Instead, He said repeatedly to God, not My will but Yours. All I do for Your Kingdom. As a Christian, I so desperately want to get better at this. I want to set my goals on heavenly concepts; I want to learn to die to self daily, hourly, even by the minute if that’s what it takes. I want to serve others first and myself last. I want to learn to care for others in the name of Jesus and with the love He’s given me, relying on HIM to take care of me, to restore my soul. I want to be less worried about myself and more worried about what I’m doing on a daily basis to show Jesus to others, to serve others in His name. I want to say, Here I am Lord, send me, without worrying if it’ll be convenient. I just want to be able to live in a way that makes it obvious He who lives within me is FAR GREATER than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4).

Dear Lord, I thank You so very much for the guidance provided in Your Word. I want to live my life, God, according to Your economy, not the world’s. I want to focus on what You say is important, on what You describe as being worth my effort. Lord, this world is confusing. Everywhere I turn there is new and different advice about how to be happy or at peace or more content or more joyful. I recognize, though, Father, that without You, none of those things is even possible. I fully understand that all peace, all joy, all relaxation, all contentment come from You, and I fully understand that unless I live my life more in line with how Jesus lived His, I cannot achieve anything for You. I want to be useful to You, Lord. I want You to use me to share Jesus with others, so I ask sincerely and earnestly, Father, that You help me recognize when I’m serving self so that I might immediately switch it off and serve others instead. Work with me, please, Lord, so that I can become still, compassionate, persistent, and more interested in making progress for You than instantly gratifying some human need I’ve conjured up. I love You, Lord, and I am so grateful that I don’t have to stay as I am. Rescue me from myself, Lord. In Jesus’s mighty and holy name I pray. Amen.