Upbeat, fast-paced Christmas songs are my jam. I don’t care if it’s one I’ve heard a million times (although I could do without 149,000 plays of Mariah Carey wanting me for Christmas. No means no, Mariah!). This year has been a tiny bit different in the music department, however. I am still NOT a fan of “Where are you, Christmas?” (insert all the crying emojis here), but one song that I’ve always thought of as being slow and melancholy turned out, after I actually listened to it carefully, not to be that way at all.
Now I know you all can probably sing this in your sleep, but please read the first verse of “O Holy Night” below (I did leave off the chorus because this isn’t choir practice after all).
Vs. 1 Oh, holy night! The stars are brightly shining
It is the night of our dear Savior’s birth.
Long lay the world in sin and error pining
Til He appeared and the soul felt its worth.
A thrill of hope, the weary world rejoices
For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.
The reason this song caught my attention so very much this year is because of one tiny little word: WEARY. Sometimes, there is no better way to explain how you’re feeling about a situation than weary. According to my esteemed colleague Webster, weary can be defined in several ways, but definitions one and three cover it most thoroughly:
1. physically or mentally exhausted by hard work, exertion, strain, etc.
3. impatient or dissatisfied with something
Before I begin this next part, let me clarify that I talked this over with Nathan and got his permission to share this. I would NEVER betray his confidence, and in order to protect that, I am intentionally going to be relatively vague, but I know you can still identify with his experience.
Lately, Nathan’s work life has him feeling the fullness of both of these definitions of weary. He’s working harder at his job and for many, many more hours than ever before. It’s often times tedious, it frequently can feel purposeless, it has taken away his time with his family, and all of those factors have left him feeling both impatient and dissatisfied. Maybe your weariness isn’t job related. Maybe your weariness is due to a difficult relationship, maybe it’s because of a health issue you just can’t quite put behind you. Maybe you’ve been praying a prayer for so long you can’t even remember when you started and you’ve grown weary in the waiting. Watching our children struggle with their own problems (that we can’t fix!) can wear us down as parents. There is no end to the number of things we encounter on the regular in this life that can affect our souls and make even our bones weary.
But, friends, God knows this, and He knew what we needed. He understood what we were feeling from all the many, many pressures of this world, and so He gifted us with a beautiful, tiny baby who came to exchange our weariness and heartache and exhaustion and chaos for happiness and health and joy. Jesus: our thrill of hope, the reason that our weary, heavy-laden souls can rest. The weary world (that’s us!) rejoices because it is a new day once that baby is brought forth and laid in that manger. Our world was forever changed, and in the book of Matthew, Jesus Himself reminds us what His coming means for those who walk in His ways.
Do you feel that weariness, too? Are you entering this Christmas season just tired of what you’re carrying? Jesus understands you. In fact, He is so attuned to the soul-exhaustion we’re experiencing that He spoke out about it in Matthew 11, verses 28-30. When you read this, please know that Jesus is talking directly to you. He is saying to you, tired friend, “28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls]. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. 30 For My yoke is wholesome (useful, good–not harsh, hard sharp or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.”
Do me a favor (consider it your Christmas gift to me), and re-read that scripture again. Think about whatever it is that has you weighed down, and compare the traits of that burden you’re carrying to the traits of Jesus’s yoke.
Life our way Life Jesus’s way
*Hard/difficult *Relieves us
*Sharp *Blessed quiet (internal peace)
I don’t know about you, but one of these lists looks WAY better than the other to me. But you know what, I seldom set down those things that I carry, that I try to figure out myself. I seldom just hand those to Jesus and pick Him up. He’s right there offering that incredible exchange, telling me that He’s got it all if I’d only let Him have it and trade my worry for His wealth, but I’m so ridiculously stubborn sometimes.
Without going into all the nitty-gritty details (just read my previous blog posts for those), please know that I am fully aware of what life feels like when you’re weary. We all recognize that feeling, whether it’s present or past, and we all will face it again until we enter Heaven’s gates. That weariness doesn’t have to be ours anymore though. Just like “O Holy Night” says, Jesus is our hope, and when you take on His abundance and His will for your life, just like the Bible and those lyrics promise, you are entering a new and GLORIOUS morn. Lamentations 3:23 reminds us that “Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each morning,” and Isaiah 43:19 continues that promise: “See, I am doing a new thing! I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”
I know that life can get exhausting. Just pretending you’re fine when you’re not sucks the life right out of you. Pretending your marriage is great when it’s not is draining. Going to a job each day that you can’t get excited about and feel zero joy toward is soul-sucking. Jesus says to us, though, Here, take me instead. I’ll give you my strength. I’ll give you my joy. And if you’ll invite me into your heart or your home or your marriage or your work day, I will ALWAYS show up. Here. Let me have that burden. Let me carry that for a while (and maybe even just fix it all while you’re off enjoying your life and not looking).
My friends, I want to encourage those of you who are weary because of waiting not to give up. I know what it’s like to tire your soul out praying for something for months and years. Exhausting isn’t a strong enough descriptor. It’s so crucial to remember, though, that just because life was one way yesterday and the day before that (and the day before that), and just because you got up this morning and it was still the same, it doesn’t mean tomorrow will be the same as well. Jesus is in your tomorrow, and tomorrow is a brand new day.
I was recently reading Liane Moriarty’s most recent novel, and a line in it just really stuck out to me. I felt like, given today’s world, she gave such an incredibly accurate description of the culture we in which we live. She was referencing society as a whole, American’s as a collective group, and she stated that we were the most overfed, malnourished people. What a sadly accurate statement! Our souls are malnourished, no doubt, but they don’t have to be. This Christmas season, spend some time with Jesus. Refresh and replenish yourself. Spend some time reading those biblical promises, reminding yourself–your weary self–exactly what the tiny baby in the manger means to you. Because it’s not a story from some history book. It’s a living, breathing Word that affects your day to day life here, today, on the cusp of 2019. Let’s agree that weariness will NOT over-populate our 2019. Let’s agree that, instead, we are going to exchange our earthly burdens for those of our Savior so that His birth and His death weren’t wasted on children who refuse to accept the greatest of all the gifts.
(Below the prayer, I have included some encouraging scriptures that I hope you’ll take the time to read. If you’re like me, sometimes those things go in one ear and out the other. So what I do is write down those that speak loudest to me. Put those verses on post-its on your bathroom mirror, on your car’s dashboard, on your kitchen cabinets so that as you go into tomorrow and next year, you purposefully choose a different, lighter, brighter way of doing life. Merry Christmas, and may God abundantly bless your 2019.)
Dear Lord, I am so grateful for the incredible gift of Your Son Jesus. I know, Father, that many, many times I attempt life at my speed and in my own way, and I get worn down and weary because I was not created to do life like that. I need Your help, though, Lord. Guide me, please. Speak to me, Father, and get my attention when times like this arise so that I might redirect my focus back onto Jesus and off of my circumstances. I greatly desire to exchange my pressing, burdensome way of life for Your peaceful, refreshing one. Thank You for Christmas, Lord, and for all that it means for me personally. Thank You that Christmas serves as a reminder to me that I have hope, that a new day is coming. Thank you, Father, that Your mercies are new every single morning. I look forward to tomorrow, Lord, because I know You’re already there. I love you, and I praise You. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen.
God’s promises/verses of encouragement
Psalm 73:26–My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
John 14:27–Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you…Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
2 Corinthians 12:9–But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
Psalm 55:22–Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never permit the righteous to be moved.
Psalm 107:20–He sent out His Word and healed them and delivered them from their destruction.
Isaiah 40:11–He will lead His flock like a shepherd. He will carry the lambs in His arms, holding them close to His heart.
2 Chronicles 20:15–Do not be afraid or discouraged…for the battle is not yours, but God’s.
Psalm 16:8–I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With Him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.